SOME PIECE OF ADVICE 'BOUT LOVE

What a girl needs most is love. What a guy needs most is respect. The most important thing for a girl is her heart. For a guy its his ego.

· Give your man his own time and space. Let him have his time for his friends, sports, family, self, and God. The relationship will grow old quickly if lagi kayong magkasama. Give him time to miss you and you’ll see how he will love you more. Wag ka panay text ng, “wer u na?”, ano u gawa? Aruuu! If the guy naman is obsessed and just wants to be with you all the time, tell him you can’t respect a “puppy” for long.

· Do things differently anytime. Para kahit matagal na kayo, there is always something fresh and new. Para naman may pag uusapan kayong bago pag magkasama na kayo ulit o nagka usap. Variety is the spice of life. Exciting baga?

· Discover something you both like to do and enjoy it TWOgether. Doon naman sa mga bagay na magkaiba ang hilig nyo, compliment each other by learning about it kahit konti. Hindi naman kinakailangan na makahiligan mo rin ang mga gusto nya pero hindi rin kailangan na kontrahin mo yun. If you love someone, yung effort nyo to try will go a looooong way to understanding him later pag may disagreement kayo.

· Pray with holding hands. Sounds corny noh? Maybe, but its very powerful. Pag may takot sa Diyos ang boyfriend mo, kampante ka na di ka nya lolokohin, because he knows God sees everything he does in secret. Ikaw na ang magkusa that before you part after a date, with hold hands and eyes closed, pray to God to bless you two. Believe me it’s effective. Kailanman, di corny ang magdasal.

· Believe in “Magic” (magic ka dyan? Hehe..). Kahit di minsan practical o walang logical na dahilan, o matrabaho, o sounds crazy sa iba, do sweet little things (dapat talaga ito!!!) for the one you love kahit magmukha ka ng timang. The memories will be fun to recall later in life. The corniest song o gift o letter ang laging kabog! At siyempre pa if d kayo mahilig magbigay ng flowers or special gifts eh kahiligan nyo na dahil wala ng sasaya pa sa feeling ng isang babae na binibigyan ng bulaklak or any symbolic jewelries (kahit mura lng) ng kaniyang mahal. O kng d niyo man makahiligan at nkokornihan talaga kayo kahit man lng once in a blue moon sa tinagal tagal ng relasyon niyo eh magawa nyo eto. Believe me it would be very much appreciated by your partners.

· True love brings out the best in each other. Find something good in your boyfriend and nurture it, encourage it and syempre, ENJOY it.

· It’s healthy to fight (oo naman). Doon nyo lang maaayos ang mga differences nyo at natetest ang tatag ng relationship. Doon mo rin sya makikilala ng mabuti.. It’s called test of fire. Di mahalaga how dalas you fight. What matters is how often you make bati. Mas nakakatakot yung relasyong sobrang perfect at laging masaya.. One big fight and that’s it! And di ba mas kilig yung malambing na… “uy, bati na tayo…“. But don’t overdo it. Kakapagod naman din na lagi na lang manuyo o magsori (ouch). Choose the battles na papatulan mo. The little issues, palampasin na. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

· Daraan sa iba’t-ibang stages ang love especially pag matagal na kayo. Grow with it. Don’t expect him to be like nung una. ‘Coz like a student, di na ituturo sa grade 6 yung lessons na pang-grade 2. Change WILL happen… you both will change and your love WILL change too. It’s up to you na lang if the change will be for the better or for the worse. Life is about growth. Grow with it.

· When break up comes and it’s time to say goodbye, don’t doubt the love just because it didn’t last. May mga bagay sa buhay na di man nagtatagal, it doesn’t mean di na ito totoo. Some good things are just never meant to last forever. Okay lang yon. Bless the parting and move on. (sino kaya natatamaan dito?) Expect tears, sorrow, sleepless nights and pain. Ika nga “it’s when you hurt the worse that you love the MOST.” Kung di ka willing masaktan, wag ka na lang magmahal.

· Life is a balance. And love is both holding on and letting go. Know when to fight for your man and when to let him go. God will guide you kung anong dapat gawin sa kung anong sitwasyon. So dapat mataas ang signal ng langit sa cellfone ng puso mo to know His wisdom.

I was depressed lately kaya siguro tinamad din akong I update itong blog ko. Minsan kasi pag wala ako sa mood, lalo na at may iniisip ako, hindi ako makapag sulat ng maayos. Puro negative lang ang lumalabas. I had a problem with my bf and I thought I almost gave up. We always argued whenever we talked even if we seldom see each other. Which caused me to feel depressed, hindi ko kasi maintindihan nung una. Until my bestfriend told me to talk with him so that I can tell him what I really feel. I know love is still there. I can feel it. I love him so much that it hurts seeing us both changing and taking for granted the relationship we have. Sinabi niya sa akin na ako lang ang nag iisip ng kung ano ano. Well, siguro ganun talaga ang mga babae. Insecured. I told him I would not think that way if he did not make me feel that way. I am getting sensitive and he didn’t understand. The problem with me, I can easily tell and express the way I feel when I am happy, excited and sometimes overwhelmed. But I can’t blurt it out if I am hurt, angry and depressed. I just can’t. Ganun talaga ako, tatahimik na lang. Reklamo nga niya, hinahayaan ko siyang manghula ng nararamdaman ko.

I just read this article this morning before I went to the office. Actually matagal na ito sa bag ko. E-mail message sa akin. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, sana noon ko pa to nabasa. Para hindi na ko na confused at na depressed. Totoo kasi ngayon ko lang na realize. But it was not too late pa naman. We are okay now and hopefully maging happier and sweeter again for the next hours, days and moment that we would be spending together. (=